I’m just going to put it out there in the universe: I’m relocating to LA!
With much more excitement than how it reads, I am embracing a new chapter of my life for reasons other than the scenery and the lifetime supply of Summer weather. Sure, I have dreams and aspirations to “make it”; but I believe that in order to get there I have to first face my fear and do something almost irrational, if for no other reason than to have a story to tell to my unborn children’s children. So, I’m moving just over 2500 miles away from where I am now with not a lot of money, a futon to crash on, and no job lined up. Smart, I know.
Before you place the irrational stamp on my endeavor, hear me out.
See, I’ve always wanted to move away and live in a new place completely different than what I’m accustomed to. My first dream was NYC, then it was Chicago. Until a friend made me realize that if I want to go someone different I shouldn’t relocate to a place that ultimately looks the same as where I’m coming from. So Cali it is! But that’s not the full story.
I made the decision to move to LA a little over 3 years ago and immediately mapped out my financial planned to go out there with this ginormous amount of cash (i.e., $10,000) to feel comfortable until things got tough or I got let go from a job. I truly believed I could do this while on unemployment. It was totally possible considering that all I had was a car note, a cell phone bill, and was living at home with dad after having been laid off from my job. I found this plan more and more difficult to stick to because it required a lot of sacrifices I wasn’t really ready to make, such as not going out to eat as much or vacating to the city every weekend to attend some $5 event. I found myself continuing the same habits and putting off sticking to the plan. Before I knew it, the unemployment was running out and I had to find a job to help me save for this “move” I was getting ready to make.
I’ve had a one-way ticket to LA that started out with one date, turned into another, and ended up being a vacation after I purchased a return ticket back to where I came from.
What happened? I got there and wasn’t ready to stay.
I was scared because I didn’t have any money saved other than the money I came with, and a new job I was only 3 months into. I let uncertainty scare me away and back on a plane to the Midwest.
While I knew it was where I wanted to be I was afraid of things not working out; the possibility of all the bad things happening and no chance of things working in my favor. I focused on the journey ahead rather than the prize at the end of it and stayed stuck in fear and discouragement, afraid to set yet a third departure date. So I did what any scared adult would do: renew my lease at my apartment complex and worked my job a little longer for resume purposes.
Once I got back from what was supposed to be my final destination it hit me: I’m merely existing and not living. It really didn’t hit home until I was able to really see the people around me simply operating in the capacity that was normal to them; AKA: doing what they gotta do. Although there is nothing wrong with this, it worries me because it makes me wonder how many of them felt this same urgency in their stomachs but never acted on it. How many people heard the phone ringing inside their heart to do something but didn’t answer the phone thinking it was a bill collector. We all know the heart wants what the heart wants, but unfortunately for him we allow the mind to play parent to this organ, treating it like a kid who only wants what it sees. The mind rationalizes while the heart often fantasizes. But isn’t that where dreams come from?
I don’t mind working and enjoy my job a lot actually. Yet, I can’t seem to get to this phone that’s ringing off the hook in my heart and I’m afraid that if I don’t hurry up and answer it they’ll stop calling. So I answered, and this is how the conversation went:
Me: Hello..?
Desire: Hey! I’m sorry for calling so much but…
Me: But…what?
Desire: I had to tell you this…
Me: What?…who is this?
Desire: It’s Desire. I’ve been calling you for the longest. I was starting to worry that I had the wrong number. This is Tami, right?
Me: Uh, yeah…this is. What are you calling for?
Desire: I’m calling to tell you that I want out.
Me: out? Where are you?
Desire: I’ve been locked inside this heart of yours for years and I’m ready to get out! You can’t just keep me in here you know.
Me: Well…I mean. I have no where for you to go just yet. There’s just…I just can’t right now but I’m working on it.
Desire: You don’t understand, I have to get out of here. You need to let me out.
Me: Ok, well…uh.. Can’t you just wait a little bit longer? I’m telling you, I’ll have a place for you in a few months.
Desire: I don’t know…I’m afraid I might die in here if you don’t get me out right now.
A lot of times we receive information like this that we’re not necessarily prepared for but have no other choice but to act now before it’s too late. Granted, you have a choice in everything you do, but when the choice is obvious, fear often grabs hold of the mic and tells you otherwise. And so you hang up the phone.
I’ve wasted a lot of years thinking and planning for the right time to make this happen because I am a person who just has to have her ducks in a row before doing anything. This has done nothing but cause me to stare at my ducks and contemplate on all the ways I can arrange them. I no longer want to think about everything too much and not do. There’s no way to find out if anything of these ducks will lay eggs until they have them.
I made my decision to just go when I was faced with the question of whether or not I’d be happy with dying today knowing I hadn’t tried my hand at this goal yet. I envisioned a very unhappy angel in Heaven, mad at not having had enough time to do all that she wanted and see what working at her dreams would bring. In fact, it wasn’t even the same when God showed her what would’ve happen had she.
So! I’m quitting my job because jobs come a dime a dozen (yes, even McDonalds) and going for it. I want to see that angel smile when she gets there. And besides, if it doesn’t work out it’ll make one hell of a story to tell.
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I’ve always wanted to share this story out loud but was too afraid of the criticism I would receive from those I told. Moreover, I didn’t want the objections to penetrate once I did make up my mind. I’ve kept this to myself for quite some time to make sure that I limited the amount of people I would have to given an explanation to should this all change. So far it hasn’t. I encourage you to chase your dreams and know that if it literally doesn’t kill you, it’ll make you stronger. I’m sure you could use all the strength you could get if you’re going after something. Life is meant to be lived. You can bounce back from anything you want if you put your time to it. So go ahead and write that story whether it’s a success or a failure. Enjoy living the story with every stroke of your actions as they are the pen. Good and Bad. You’d be amazed at how many people would want to read it.